Comments on: The one where I get told I’m a bad Mom

By: avasmommy

avasmommy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:02:12 +0000

I would like to say I’m shocked by that woman’s comments, but sadly I’m not. Sick to death of this whole notion that a working mom somehow loves her kids less, regardless of if she enjoys her job.

I cannot agree more with what Ben said. In the long run, you are teaching them a valuable lesson: That women can be moms and wives, and if they choose to, anything else they reach for.
.-= avasmommy´s last blog ..10 Years =-.

By: Heather C

Heather C — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:37:04 +0000

I am astounded that someone would get so offended by your choice that they’d email you. IMAGINE if you got offended by her choice to stay home with the kids (“You have a duty to go work, think of all the feminists before you!!”). The wonderful thing about our lives here in the first world is that we get the choice. We get to choose to stay home or work outside the home. We have the LUXURY OF BEING OFFENDED by someone else’s choice. Amazing.

By: PB and Jazz

PB and Jazz — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:30:35 +0000

Anyone who has followed you at all would know you adore your kids. You know that saying “if mama’s not happy, nobody’s happy”? I think it is true. You do a good job of balancing it all. I love your last line, you are right, you and yours is all that matters.

By: AmazingGreis

AmazingGreis — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:25:13 +0000

You're doing an amazing job. To work, or not to work, that's totally up to you. YOU do what's right for YOU and your family. I've never understood why one option, or the other, is the RIGHT thing. But I commend working mothers and stay at home mothers just the same. .-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..O who? Hook’em Horns!!! =-.

By: Shark

Shark — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 12:00:33 +0000

Dogg, whoever wrote you that email needs a serious ass kicking. Firstly, it’s NONE of their business what you choose to do in terms of working or staying home. Secondly, not everyone is fortunate enough to even be ABLE to have the ability to stay home if they want to (present company included) so for that person to chastise you for wanting to go to work and support your family and provide bigger and better things for them later in life is just ridiculous. I mean, that IS the ultimate point… working to educate and enrich your mind, yes… but we work to collect a paycheck. NONE of us would work every day if we weren’t getting paid, and that’s just a fact. And that paycheck goes into buying necessities, or buying fun things, or simply just saving up for for ourselves, but more importantly, our families! I think what you are doing is great, and I think you would be miserable if you were a full time stay at home mom forever because of how much you have to offer the world! Yes, your children are your life, but you need to keep yourself stimulated too!!!
.-= Shark´s last blog ..Dear Baby… =-.

By: Anne Y

Anne Y — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:27:54 +0000

Congrats on the job Ali! I know that it's never easy for a mom to go back to work and leave her kids and I'm sure it was hard on you and probably still is. I also know that after being a FT stay at home mom for the last 3 years, that I miss working and wish I could pick up a part time job just to get out of the house and have some interaction with other adults IRL and not just from the comfort of my home office. I applaud you for what you are doing and screw anyone who tells you it's wrong! .-= Anne Y´s last blog ..More Famous Bewbs! =-.

By: PrincessJenn

PrincessJenn — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 00:31:50 +0000

Wow. That is harsh.
I hate when people can’t understand that not everyone is like them or has the same views on life.
I’m happy being a SAHM. But I know many of my friends who adore their children, but are itching to get back to work. Do I think that makes them a bad parent? Nope. I’m glad they are following their hearts and doing what makes them happy.
Two working parents is the new norm and people just need to learn to deal with that fact without being so judgmental about it.
.-= PrincessJenn´s last blog ..Drama Sucks So I’m Giving Away Stuff =-.

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:44:09 +0000

I envy you for having the balls to do what YOU want to do. I want to be a nurse to but I am too scared to do anything about it. I am very proud to call you my friend and I am sure when I do grow a pair, I will look to you for advice! .-= Sara´s last blog ..Pray for baby Emma =-.

By: Molly

Molly — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:00:38 +0000

That is absolutely crazy, and anyone who would write that is either jealous of your confidence or has very low self esteem. In America today with the economy we all have to work whether we want to or not! It is a blessing when someone can be a stay at home mom and that is what they wanted all along. However some of us have brains and like to use them. I went to school and graudated from college, am I going to push that aside because I am a mom now? All the loans I am still paying off and will be for many years? No, I will go back to work when I find a new job because I have to and because I want to stimulate my brain and provide for my child. It is no one's business to impose their feelings on motherhood on you, enjoy your new job and your still a great mom! .-= Molly´s last blog ..Finding Hope in Chaos =-.

By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:44:58 +0000

There are so many things wrong with that person’s view of the world that I could write a whole blog post about it. But since I don’t do that anymore, I’ll just say this: what you’re doing now will help your boys become better men.

They’ll see you not just as “mom” but as someone who is independent and driven as well as loving and caring. That’s going to make them better husbands and fathers.

And that will help drive dinosaurs like the one who wrote you that email into extinction.
.-= Ben´s last blog ..Heroes =-.